Night i experienced some version of this the other. This person we connected with mentioned, several times, simply how much he likes extremely petite ladies. Now, I don’t think I’m “fat” but I’m not “small. ” I’m kind of a mfat. I never feel fat.
How come this remark bug me personally? We wondered. Often, my ex-girlfriend would find other ladies appealing and i did son’t mind. I’m open to your indisputable fact that people may have numerous kinds, that simply because somebody is into — say — blondes doesn’t suggest they’re not into me personally. But their comment actually remained beside me.
The initial conclusion for me, he can’t get a girl he’d really like, so he tolerates my not-petite body that I jumped to was he’s settling. But… that also dis actually attracted to me personally (and, I’m usually great at reading people. ) Therefore, we wondered, if he’s interested in me personally, how does he carry on on about these slim ladies he’d instead be fucking?
And, i do believe the clear answer is… dating women that are thin section of theirI’m wired to locate small ladies appealing, when one crosses my course *BAM* we have switched on. Maybe maybe Not my fault.
But being interested in someone outsot so thin woman ended up being providing him feelings of shame/creepiness and then he ended up being trying to mitigate those feelings by reinforcing the narrative andnormal searching women, this means you’re status that is low. Minimal worth. Unlovable.